Recall for a moment the last time you were under stress and lost your temper. Perhaps you yelled, or cursed, or attacked someone you care about with ugly names and accusations. Perhaps you have engaged in this same kind of behavior many times before. Each time, you realize that you’ve hurt your loved ones and yourself very badly. And after each terrible episode, you promise yourself and those you love that you will change. But you don’t change.
The temptation to accuse and yell overpowers your resolve. You want to be understood, but your actions cause more hurt than understanding.
Or maybe you’re not the one who yells. Maybe, when you’re under stress, you retreat into a shell and cannot be reached by the person who loves you. Perhaps you’re aloof or superior, or just plain distant, leaving the person who loves you feeling inadequate, rejected, and simply lost.
Afterwards, you promise the person you will change, that you’ll learn to share your heart more fully. But the temptation to retreat into your silent bunker, to abandon the one you love is too great; there are too many rewards for stepping back and flying away.
I dare say that most of us want to change. And the more we love someone, or the more we love the work we do, or the life we have, the greater is our desire to grow.
But how? How do we grasp hold of what Victor Frankl correctly identifies as that “space” between stimulus and response and actually experience our freedom?
The truth is, the vast majority of people are not free. They’re not free to think differently, to experience different emotions, to interpret reality in new ways, or to engage behaviors that are new, creative, and powerful.
Why? Because we are trapped within a small image of self — an identity that is committed to its own survival and will resort to anger, fear, withdrawal of love, rage, and even violence to protect its stranglehold on our consciousness. It wants us to believe that we are nothing more than the automatic behaviors that seem to imprison us.
WE ARE GUIDED BY A GREATER KNOWING
Life has a way of awakening us to a greater reality than the one our image of self allows us to perceive. Something inside of us knows — without any doubt — that we are more than our current identity. We are more than our beliefs, more than our current limitations, more than our anger and fear.
Each of us is called to experience that “more.”
There is a gentle way to uncouple from what is going on around you — however stressful that might be — and experience something new and truly transformative within you. A Deeper Knowing wants you to drop your habitual reaction to events — even for just a moment — and experience the gap between stimulus and response.
In the womb of that gap lies the mingling of Divine Intelligence and a living energy that is the better-you.
The better-you exists as an energetic blueprint that Divine Intelligence wants you to perceive, embrace, to feel, and give life force to. It wants you to allow that better-you to transform your behaviors, restore your health, arrange the next phase of your life, and lead you to fulfillment.
The better-you already exists within you as a potential state of consciousness. It is brought to life by a set of clearly defined behaviors.
Once you begin to perceive that better-you, and begin practicing certain life-changing behaviors, you start to feel what the better-you feels; you do what the better-you does; you experience the life the better-you creates.
That learning is the substance of Tom Monte’s new program, Living in Alignment with the Better-You.
EIGHT MONTHS THAT TRANSFORM YOUR LIFE
The program unfolds in eight weekend modules; each module takes place once a month, beginning on the weekend of September 21 and ending in April 2019. (See dates below.)
Over the course of those months, you will learn to identify and experience the better-you. You will learn the behaviors that bring forth the better-you and allow it to displace your existing image of self. As you live by these behaviors, the better-you gradually and inevitably transforms all the important areas of your life, including:
- Your experience of who you are.
- Your experience of anger, fear, disappointment, and rage.
- Your physical body, health, and healing.
- Your intimate partnership and family relationships.
- Your work life, goals, and ambitions.
- Your purpose for living.
- Your experience of, and relationship with, a Deeper Knowing that flows within you.
- Your past, including experiences that you judge as failures, disappointments, and sources of guilt and shame.
THE WORK IS DONE IN AN ATMOSPHERE OF LOVE
Our work is done in a compassionate, loving, respectful, and healing environment, with the intention of enhancing every member’s dignity and self-love.
Among the primary goals of this program is to help you develop a more compassionate and loving relationship with yourself. In such an atmosphere, you can confront and explore your pain, and expose it to the very healing forces that it longs for — the healing power of a Greater Love, a Deeper Knowing that lies within you.
The material is derived from Tom Monte’s unique approach to healing, and his more than three decades of experience as a group facilitator, counselor, teacher, and writer specializing in the healing arts. For more information about Tom, please click here.
(See testimonials below from those who have studied with Tom.)